“You’re Dating a Narcissist!” is directed by Ann Marie Allison (Don’t Neg Meg, Lift) and stars Marisa Tomei (Spider-Man: Homecoming, The King of Staten Island), Sherry Cola (Joy Ride, Good Fortune), Ciara Bravo (Cherry, Wayne), Marco Pigossi (Invisible City, High Tide), José María Yazpik (Madame Web, Narcos), and Jonah Platt (The List, Trolls: The Beat Goes On!). This film follows a psychologist who is trying to stop her daughter from getting married from someone who she claims is a narcissist.

If there is anything that got me into “You’re Dating a Narcissist,” it would be the stars. Not just because they are who they are, but some of them have the bonus of being in a film I previously reviewed. A couple years ago I had the privilege of attending South by Southwest in Austin, Texas. I was not there the entire time, but I did end up going to a couple screenings during my visit, one of which includes “High Tide.” I do not remember the entirety of that movie, but I do remember enjoying it and finding it to have likable characters. Two of the films’ stars included Marisa Tomei and Marco Pigossi. Little did I know these two would reunite within a year or two for another movie, that being this one. Not to mention, this film stars Sherry Cola, who has grown on me as a performer. She has proven she a has knack for comedic roles through “Joy Ride,” one of the finest comedies of 2023.Not to mention “Good Fortune,” which made me laugh consistently.

Although just because this movie has stars on screen, does not automatically guarantee it is going to be a five star experience. Is this film worth watching? Eh…

This is not the worst film I have ever seen. But saying that comes off as if I am trying my darndest to be nice.

I truly want to like this movie, because it is based on the experience of the director, Ann Marie Allison, being in a relationship with someone she realized was a narcissist. Yet there are times where I found Judy (Tomei) to be annoying as a lead. I understand the movie dolls her up as a psychologist who happens to have written a book on the movie’s titular subject matter. However, she often comes off as judgy in her line delivery and mannerisms. Sure, in her mind, she is trying to do what she sees as the right thing, protecting her daughter from marrying someone she believes would not be the right person. But watching her overanalytical tendencies and hearing her critical dialogue is sometimes cringe-inducing. Overall, the relationship between Judy and her daughter, Eva (Bravo) is somewhat uncomfortable to watch at times. Perhaps one could argue that is the point, but even so, as a viewer, I would watch these two on screen together and find certain moments between them to come off as mind-numbing.

It took me awhile to think about why exactly Marisa Tomei was the lead of this movie, rather than Ciara Bravo, who is the one who happens to be dating the… Well, “narcissist.” On the surface, Tomei is the most recognizable star in the cast and has top-billing. But there is more than name recognition alone. There is a connective tissue tying the story together, specifically clips featuring Tomei letting out an endless stream of thoughts. These clips match several scenes of the movie and the characters’ actions within them. The way these scenes are put together are neatly edited and well-timed. In fact, as much as I at times was not exactly fond of Tomei’s character, her acting is nevertheless top-notch in these scenes. She kills every moment despite sitting down in front of a camera the entire time. At the same time though, having Tomei’s character as the lead is what occasionally makes the movie irritating. The movie spends so much time with this character, who deep down, means well, but gives off such an overcritical vibe.

Going back to the idea that this film is based on Ann Marie Allison’s personal experience, part of me thinks Judy is almost designed to be the character that most resembles her, having gone through the troubles of her relationship. If anything, Allison resembles two characters. The recently mentioned Judy, as well as the more obvious candidate, her daughter Eva. Each time Eva does something in this movie, Judy often sounds like the voice that is trying to tap into her head telling her, “I’ve seen this, girl! Get out of there!” In that way, the film tends to work. But I had no idea prior to this review that this film was based on reality, so it took me time to further appreciate the film. Why? Because this is designed to be a comedy. It is kind of an unusual subject matter to try to make funny, but having watched enough “Family Guy,” people can take heavy topics and whip upan effective joke or two out of them. That said, this movie is not that funny. I did not laugh much, and anything that I found funny at the time of watching this movie, I have likely forgotten. I could not quote a single line at this point that had me chuckling. Not the best of signs.

Parts of the movie are mildly entertaining as we see the characters sometimes getting into some wild, goofy antics. Some of the secondary characters stand out, such as Daniel (Yazpik), a charismatic hotel employee. Although the film is somewhat predictable the further the story goes. I can see this movie working as PSA on narcissism. Whether it means reminding people that they might know someone who is a narcissist, or heck, maybe it could warn that a viewer that they themselves could be a narcissist. You never know. When it comes to being a comedy, that is where this movie fails at times. When it comes to being a romance, or something along that line, that is where this movie fails at times. There are ingredients for a decent movie somewhere and while I appreciate the message, I thought the delivery could have been better.

In the end, “You’re Dating a Narcissist!” is not the greatest movie I have ever seen. Is it an abomination against humanity? Absolutely not. Is it a masterpiece? Not quite. The movie falls somewhere in the middle of those two extremes. I am sure Ann Marie Allison has some good ideas ahead for future projects. I am glad she got to tell a personal story, but I wish that story were presented differently. I am rooting for her in whatever she does next, but I have to be honest. I am going to give “You’re Dating a Narcissist!” a 5/10.

“You’re Dating a Narcissist” is now playing in theaters. Tickets are available now!

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